I Want It All Or Rather to See It All

During March I was very busy travelling for work and spent half of the month away from home.  While I enjoy travelling, 14 days away from my family in one month is more than I could take.

A quick visit to Stanley Park while in Vancouver, BC for the joint NAR/AE Conference.

A quick visit to Stanley Park while in Vancouver, BC for the joint NAR/AE Conference.

Apparently it was more than my family could take too, but not for the reason you would think.  They actually managed quite well without me (aside from a rather large laundry pile).  What they did (and still do) have a problem with is listening to me as I continually talk about where I want to travel to next.

You see, while I was away and stuck in a hotel room by myself I spent a lot of time online researching where I wanted to travel to for my next trip, with my family. The more research I did the more locations I realized I want to visit.

I’m realistic enough to know I’m not going to get to visit them all but that isn’t going to keep me from trying to figure out how to visit as many of as I can.

In that quest I’m currently planning my 20th wedding anniversary trip and still trying to figure out how to afford another trip to Walt Disney World for my daughters 16th birthday.

My anniversary trip planning has had some challenges.  I booked a Disney Cruise but my husband, Wayne, has now said he doesn’t really want to go on a cruise.  I still haven’t cancelled it on the hopes he changes his mind. I planned the cruise so I could run the Wine & Dine Half Marathon and then relax on the cruise a few days later.

Since this trip is for him as well, I suggested a visit to Las Vegas so he could attend the tattoo convention and then we could tack on a few days to Disneyland for its 60th anniversary but the timing just doesn’t seem to be working out for that.

Next I found a wonderful jungle lodge in Costa Rica that seemed perfect but it’s very remote and Wayne doesn’t want to spend 2 days travelling just to get to and from our destination.  He has also said he’d prefer an all-inclusive resort but I just can’t find any I like in Costa Rica that seem true to the magnificent natural surroundings.  I’ve always said I want to experience the culture of where I travel to. I don’t want to stay in just another fancy hotel so now I’m back at square one again. I’m looking for something unique whether that be from the excursions available, location or atmosphere.

Where to go?

Looking forward to another perfect beach sunset.

Looking forward to another perfect beach sunset.

A few of my dream trips would be to Cambodia and Vietnam, Bali, Figi or Madagascar but since Wayne currently won’t go anywhere with a flight longer than 6 hours they are out of the running as well for this next trip.  We does however want to see the Great Wall of China so I have hopes that someday we’ll be able to travel farther together.

Mexico can be nice but we have been there so many times now that I’d like to visit some place different. Roatan, Honduras was beautiful but again I want to see someplace new.

Maybe Brazil, St. Lucia, Turks and Caicos or Grenada. At this point who knows where we will end up but I’m having fun researching and driving my family crazy with the discussions on all the options.

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Discrimination

Discrimination comes in many forms and recently my husband, Wayne, was subjected to it.

It was really rather surprising because he is a white, English speaking male in a predominantly similar area and not someone you would initially think would be discriminated against.

Wayne was trying to find a new commercial location for his business and contacted a local real estate agent about a location that was listed for rent.  An appointment was set up to view the property for two days later, however; later that same afternoon Wayne received a text from the real estate agent saying that the owners of the property deemed my husband’s use of the property to be unsuitable. The owners of the property never even took the time to show the property to my husband.

There are very few commercial locations for rent in the area my husband wants to relocate his shop to that do not cost a huge sum to rent so finding this property which fit the majority of his requirements had him looking forward to a move that he had previously dreaded.

My husband is a successful business owner whose business has been in the same location for more than 15 years.  He is a college graduate, family man and has never had any issues with the law.  In addition to his business he is also a dedicated fireman for the neighbouring community, where we live.  However; the owners of the property would not know any of this since they never bothered to speak with him.  They made a judgement call based on a single piece of information that was provided to them.

So why you might ask would the owners say his use is unsuitable?  It seems rather obvious to me (although they never gave a reason). It is because he runs a tattoo and piercing shop.

His shop is the oldest tattoo shop in the area and is health board inspected.  In fact he has such a good rapport with the health unit that they have used his shop to help train new inspectors. Wayne only works part-time (for which I am supremely jealous), pays taxes and has never been late with a rent payment.  He has tattooed people of all walks of life including local judges, lawyers, doctors, police officers and many members of the military.  Certainly I would think none of those clients could be deemed unsuitable and although it is not tracked by Statistics Canada it is estimated that more than one in four adults have tattoos and the figure has been rising steadily in recent years.

As frustrating at this whole situation is I still took this as an opportunity to point out to our children that discrimination can be found anywhere and a reminder of what discrimination is.

Discrimination is defined as the treatment or consideration of, or making a distinction in favor of or against, a person or thing based on the group, class, or category to which that person or thing belongs rather than on individual merit.

I am very proud of the choices our children have made in the past to include people that other classmates have considered outsiders into their group of friends and I truly hope that by seeing how discrimination can impact people even those not normally targeted, that they continue to treat everyone fairly.   I’m sure they will but it never hurts to remind them.

As for my husband he is still looking for a new location for his business.  Any landlord that is that discriminatory doesn’t deserve to make a profit and collect rent from my husband.